Get out. Make friends. Meet people in NJ.
I know it sounds corny, but it's true... If we all chip in a little bit, we can all make a big difference together. :-)
Here is a how-to I worked on for wikiHow this past Friday along with a bunch of other people at a wiki conference I organized out in Boston:
It's pretty extensive, but you can think of any other ways to help the earthquake victims, please feel free to hit the edit button and add them. If you have problems adding things, please feel free to send me a note. There are similar articles for Pakistan and Haiti as well.