Last we we ran a Tall Men Speed Dating event that SOLD OUT and I want to try it again.

Men (5'10" and taller) and Women should take this SURVEY.

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Why Tall Men Speed Dating????
I have received more requests to do Tall Men Speed Dating than any other “niche” area.

Why do I think Tall Men Speed Dating is OK????
Have you ever looked twice at a couple where the woman was a lot taller than the man?
Have you decided someone was not attractive just because of their height?
Have you ever done a search on Match.com where you included height minimum and maximum requirements?
If you have done any of these things I’m sure you can understand how there is lots of societal pressure for MEN to be taller than WOMEN in a relationship. How can you blame the women for wanting to fit in in that way?

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Doug- It's a flawed argument... tall women are chastised for dating short men. Men are not chastised for dating B chested women. Why not give the tall women a break Doug?
Most men are taller than me.
Doug- THIS is you giving tall women a hard time.
"... it should be okay to have a ">34C girl" dating thing."

And after running NJYP for 5.5 years I'm not talking about the 5'2" women who want to wear heels. I'm talking about the 6' women who just want a guy their height, barefoot.

I guess being a tall man you have no idea what it is like to be in their shoes. I, being short, have no idea either what it's like. I just know that I listen to them when they talk about how hard it is to find love.
If I may...

We can slice this any way we want: your height, the shoes you wear, your salary. On the surface it may seem a bit picky, but you can't deny folks their preferences. It's just one of many puzzle pieces to finding that right fit. An event like this helps break the ice for those who may be a little intimidated with or simply have a hard time tracking down a tall fella.

And in the end, height is never a guarantee of a good date. So it doesn't hurt to be a little upfront, in a TACTFUL manner, about what someone really finds appealing.
Being tall rules.
JP with the tactful, politically-inoffensive response.. I agree with Tony, it's nice to be 6'1.

How about an event featuring women with big chests and men with big..... wallets?
Being a tall woman myself, I prefer to date men who are at least my height if not taller than me. I'm sure most women would agree that they would prefer to date a man taller than themselves. Why not have a tall men speed dating event in order to allow taller women the opportunity to meet tall men who could be potential future dates?

In general, women tend not to date men shorter than themselves and men tend not to date women taller than themselves, so why is this such an issue? You can even make it a tall men/tall women event so it’s a mutual benefit for women who like taller men and men who prefer tall women.

Laura, I suggest if you run an event based on bra size that you also require men to provide certain measurements of their own.
It's Tall Men only based on a survey I did last year. 62% of tall men will date any woman who is shorter.



John K. said:
Perhaps this event should be called "Tall Men _and_ Women" event, not just "Tall Men." Then we vertically challenged folks won't feel slighted.
what a controversial issue! haha. i will simply give my own opinion and a few anecdotes, and hope not to offend anyone.

first off, the tall men speed dating is a great idea! i am relatively tall myself (5'6 1/2") and, like kelly c, prefer to date men taller men, or men that are at least my height. i would rather not be taller than my boyfriend when i wear heels, but love is love, you know?

on the contrary, i had a female friend in college who was 5'10" and who had no problem with her bf's height of 5'5". not my thing, but cheers to her!

as far as the chest-size argument goes, i completely agree with kelly c, and i will quote her, "Laura, I suggest if you run an event based on bra size that you also require men to provide certain measurements of their own." amen, sister!

what does everyone think if laura was to hold an event for "shorter" men a few weeks later, to balance it out? that way, everyone's preferences are covered.
As a tall girl myself (5'9" barefoot) I honestly don't care if a guy is taller, my height, shorter, etc. There comes a point in life when you have to be comfortable with YOURSELF as you are and not care what people think. I've dated guys taller than me and shorter and I don't see it being an issue, personally. I know everyone doesn't feel the same way and there's a long standing tradition (for lack of a better term) of guys being taller, older, making more money, etc. Thing is, I think locking oneself into only dating people of a certain height, weight, age, ethnic group, etc actually does a disservice to the person in question. Turning down someone based solely on a physical attribute (no matter what it is) really just cheats you out of something potentially wonderful.

I get the point that tall women are chastised for dating short men, as that is true, but at the same time we're kind of perpetuating the stereotype/bias here. I say we empower the tall girls of NJYP to pull out their heels and invite the great guys (shorter or not) to come party with us.
Relax people. Truly if you have nothing better to do than pick a bone about an event you are either very insecure and/or need to get out more. If you don't agree with it, don't go to the event. End of story. It has no effect on your life whatsoever so why bother getting all bent out of shape about it? You are living in a fantasy world if you don't believe that physical appearance has ANY bearing on attraction. I know girls who are attracted to men solely because of their height. I also know girls who are attracted to me in spite of their height. Everyone is different. Welcome to reality.

Laura, good job on finding out what the people want and bringing it to them!
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In the last year I've dated 4 girls who were at least 3 inches taller than me... and I was amazed that they were much more into the relationship than I was considering the strange reverse roles. I PREFER shorter girls, but they're hard to come by (when you're 5'5" and all ladies wear heeled shoes) and even many of them prefer guys above 5'10" regardless of their small stature. I don't take it personally, but I do enjoy pointing out the superficiality of it. As far as my own standards on weight, etc. I only maintain the same standards I keep for myself which, I hope, is respectable.

I think the argument here is that some people are having a very tough time finding love, in general. And they really desire it and feel that they deserve it. And any event which precludes their presence can feel like rubbing salt into a wound. I do remember having these issues in my past, but now I just empathize. As said in an earlier post, preferences are preferences... and wouldn't it be fantastic to have that entire checklist accounted for with every single potential candidate at any one of these events? But then you're only playing yourself, because this is IMPOSSIBLE unless you're a client of Hollywood Matchmakers.

Taking all of the wonderful advice of people discussing this fantastic topic: I will upload a dating application. Ladies (only 5'4" and under), please don't hesitate to secure your position... We'll call it: Speed Dating for Geno! Kind of like "Rock of Love" meets "Scott Baio is 45 and Single." (Actually I'm 31). Repost with your stats and I'll be sure to 'friend' you!

Sensitive people, this was a joke

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